Let’s talk about sex (but not in front of the kids!…)

7 04 2010

A few weeks ago a tweet caught my eye, it was from someone who was trying to drum up signatures to a petition regarding the new and improved ‘compulsory’ sex education lessons for children in UK schools from the age of five. I clicked on the link; as soon as I had I knew that I would have to do a blog about it…


“We, the undersigned, call upon the Bishops of England and Wales and the Catholic Education Service to fulfil their duty as guardians of our Catholic Faith and unequivocally reject recent Government measures forcing Catholic schools to teach what is explicitly condemned by the Church, viz: presenting active homosexuality as an acceptable alternative lifestyle, and providing information on the nature – and provision – of contraception and abortion services. Compliance on the part of the Bishops and the CES in such measures would effectively render our schools no longer Catholic in any meaningful sense, and would place the faith and moral life of our children in jeopardy. As Catholic parents, teachers and pastors, we earnestly beg of you, our Shepherds in Christ, that you do not allow this to happen.

Sincerely – The Undersigned”


But before I start to tear this tissue of lies apart, I want to talk about sex. I enjoy sex – there I have said it, it’s a weight off my chest. I freely admit that I am filled with lust and desire for a cavalcade of naked man flesh (although if Monkey is reading this – it’s only ever him that I think about…) that surrounds us. I know that sex sells (I used to work for a company that did nothing but sell sex) it is one of the main points in the advertisers hand book, make people feel that they will be seen as being attractive by other people for either using or owning the product and you will be laughing all the way to the bank. At this point I’m sure that a few feminists will be pointing out that it is the objectification of women that is used to sell products; however over the last few years things have started to change as men are having to live up to the near impossible images that are being paraded around (just look at the trailers for the vile ‘Twilight’ films, women’s magazines and commercials and you get the idea). Is this right or wrong – well I would have to say a mixture of both. I know that if you had to adverts that were trying to selling me the same item and one used a himbo and the other used some vile, fat, arsehole (such as Jeremy Clarkson) I would have to go with the himbo – eye candy sells, a simple yet sad fact.

I had sex - with your mum!

So back to the main focus of this blog post…

Sex education in the UK is poor, really piss poor. We have one of the highest rates of STD infections in our teenage population, one of the lowest rates of use of contraceptives; abortion rates are high, as too is teen pregnancy. So something isn’t working. At the moment a parent can with draw their child from Sex Education (or PHSE) up to the age of 19 (yes, you can be old enough to have sex, vote, join the army and go to prison, but your parents can still withdraw you from a basic lesson on sex!). The law has recently changed to lower this down to 15. So to be fair it’s not really compulsory in any form of the word. Sex is the biggest and most important thing that we do as humans (without it crotch-less panties would never have been invented…), it is a core function of the human existence. Yet on average in the UK only 3-5 hours of lessons per year are given over to sex. Some would wrongly argue that parents are picking up the slack by sitting down and chatting to their kids about sex. Well you may have already guesses it but UK parents are the worst in Europe for talk about sex with their kids (In Holland parents will sit down and watch TV shows that frankly discuss sex – anal, BDSM, oral and even aural forms). So young people aren’t getting the right information at an early enough age? This could well be the case and recently the government introduced changes the way the sex and relationships would be taught to the young. The moral bastion of the nation *shudder* The Daily Mail reported this in its own special way and very recently the following headline ‘anger after class of seven-year-olds is shown ‘graphic sex cartoon’’ caused the loyal band of mail readers to froth at the mouth. I have seen the cartoon and to be honest if this is your idea of graphic then you may not want to read page 3 of the Sun (if you want to make up your own mind you can watch the video here – http://www.teachers.tv/video/367) I was more worried about the fact that they are making light of the fact that ‘ginger men with glasses’ could be in a relationship…  

Notable (?) group; Family Education Trust argues there is no evidence that teenage pregnancy rates are reduced by starting sex education at an early age. Except, if you look at the Dutch where, early age sex education and a frank, honest and (most importantly) a grown up attitude to sex has resulted in Europe’s lowest rate of teen pregnancy. Swivel on that!  

I'm all about the hot man love!

Now lets talk about the one think that can make the average Daily Mail reader’s head implode – gay sex… but first a few facts:

•Almost two thirds (65 per cent) of young lesbian, gay and bisexual people experience homophobic bullying in Britain’s schools (Stonewall, School Report 2007).

•Seventy five per cent of young gay people in faith schools experience homophobic bullying and are less likely than pupils in other schools to report it (Stonewall, The School Report 2007).

•Of those who have been bullied, 92 per cent have experienced verbal homophobic bullying, 41 per cent physical bullying and 17 per cent death threats (Stonewall, The School Report 2007).

•The School Report 2007 shows that lesbian, gay and bisexual pupils can experience homophobic bullying ranging from verbal abuse to death threats. Those who are bullied experience the following: Verbal abuse 92%, Malicious gossip 76%, Intimidating looks 62%, Ignored and isolated 58%, Cyberbullying 41%, Physical abuse 41%, Vandalism and theft of property 30%, Death threats 17%, Threatened with a weapon 13% and Sexual assault 12%.

But here is the most worrying statistic from the research – LGBT youth are two to three times more likely to attempt suicide than other young people.  

So what can be done to help counter this? Well the latest PHSE courses would have started to include same sex relationships from the age of 9-11 (as in ‘some people are gay…’ NOT as many reports are claiming ‘the moustached top puts on a gimp mask and…’). However due to some, and for some please read the religious (see above petition details) have successfully petitioned to allow all faith schools the option to teach dogma (gays are bad and sinful and you will die if you are an evil homosexual) rather than facts (Gays are fabulous/Glittery and are great at shopping* and Lesbians wear sturdy shoes and smoke pipes).

Dirty, dirty deer

As far as I can see; current sex education lessons would only gain an ‘E’ grade for heterosexual students and a ‘U’ for LGBT students. This isn’t good enough, sex should not be taught based on religious dogma; parents should not have the right to screw up their children just because they have never had or enjoyed sex (children are obviously delivered by stalk or found under seasonally fruiting bushes). We (as a nation) need to get over our puerile and smutty attitude to sex. But the biggest and most important thing – we need to stop believing the hype and scare stories that a select bunch of newspapers use to feed the minds of those that should know better!

I can now feel the rage subsiding in my body, remember kids – if your going to indulge in hanky panky – do it safe and do it right!

SF xxx

 *sadly for the record I am neither fabulous nor glittery in the gay sense of the word (I don’t like Madonna or Lady GaGa and think that Kyle needs to put some weight on!) and can’t stand shopping. So that throws a spanner in the works for Gay Rights!




One response

21 04 2010

Well said!!

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