The Lady

16 03 2010

Sadly the lady passed away today after a very breif illness. She will be missed.

The Lady 10-2007 – 03-2010


The Snow Queen

28 02 2010

Monkey has always wanted to see the Northern Lights (I had always assumed that he meant the Blackpool Illuminations) and being the wonderful and deeply caring other half, I have always refused to give into his consent whining and insidious demands (treat ‘em mean and keep ‘em keen and all that jazz). On the other hand there is one person who has always given into his demands; Mother Monkey. Read the rest of this entry »

‘Wimin’ made me a man

7 02 2010

I am a ladies man. OK let me first explain, I love ladies but for the record I love men more. So what do I mean? Well yesterday I started to look at all the people who have played their part in making me, well… me. I thought that I would list all those people that I in some bizarre way look up to? Now I have to be really honest I have never really had idols – they are inevitably not worth looking up to. So the following people (OK there are a few blokes on the list but once you see who they are you will understand) have all helpped me to be me. Read the rest of this entry »

Dead and Buried or the day of my father’s death.

21 01 2010

It has been over 10 years since my father died. I can still remember the day, every stark grey moment of it; I can remember getting up to make a cup of tea and getting a call from one of my dad’s employees to say that he had been taken to hospital after collapsing. At the time, Helen (my sister) and I were the only people in the house. I had to go and wake and tell her the news, she was recovering from her Birthday piss up the night before – she started to cry, the sort of big fat tears that came in huge uncontrollable sobs. I think out of all of the things that happened over the next few days and weeks, this was the thing that most upset me.


It was the last week of university and my time being a student had come to a close. I have to say that out of all of the things that I have ever done in my life (looking back now without the aid of rose tinted glasses) I wouldn’t have chosen that particular university. For all the great friendships that I had made, for all the fun times that I had been part of – I still encountered my first and (thankfully – touch wood) only time as an outcast.


I have to say that I only chose that particular university because it was the best place to do my chosen course – Geology & Biology (joint hons.). I had always been me and lucky for me coming from a highly supportive and caring environment of college. Knowing that university would be Read the rest of this entry »

An end to another year – roll on 2010!

31 12 2009

So I’m sitting here on yet another New Years Eve with nothing to do and no cash to do it with. So this year I am going to write that cleaning blog entry to make sure that when I look back over 2010 (this time next year) I can at least see what I should have been doing and when I should have done it.

Bristol is getting to me a little. I’m not sure that I have come to love the place. It’s been almost 2 years since I moved here and to be 100% honest, it’s not Brighton. I know that Brighton is a cruel and evil mistress (or in the case of Brighton – a bad female impersonator at one of the salubrious gay dives in St James). I miss Brighton, the over priced flats, bitchy queens, bright flashing lights and even the evil seagulls (Monkey still has waking nightmares about a Brighton Seagull swooping down and attacking him.). So the big question is why don’t we move back to Brighton? Well sadly the biggest reason is the cost of renting/buying a house. We have been looking into getting a flat and settling down (buying chince from Habitat and possibly indulging in the Futon Shop’s ‘are we mad’ sale – which happens every other day!) Sadly for this reason Brighton is out of the question (well apart from when I make my money in the international tofu market). So what is next for me and the Monkey, well we could be looking to make our move up North.

I have already started to look for a new job, which is harder than it seams, I am also booking my first set of driving lessons once I have my provisional licence back. So as we look northward, I start to wonder what the last 10 years of my life I have managed to achieve. I have made some solid friendships (Christa Martin, Andrew Henderson, Claire Potter, Elizabeth Guthrie and others all of whom I know I could always chew the greater part of an ear off if I ever needed it) I have travelled, named a dildo or three and even seen a small Japanese gent shove snooker balls up his arse; but what have I done? I always imagined that I would have seen more of the world, completed the list of 10 things I wanted to do before I turned 30 (Sadly I have done none of it!) Although I have to admit that the best thing for me has been meeting Monkey (If you want to see who I first met him check out this link –

With 2010 now only moments away I have to stop and think about what I want 2010 to bring for me. Well the biggest bit has to be that I want to meet more people – Something that both Monkey and I have out is that Bristol isn’t a great place to meet new people. The ‘Gay’ mile of Bristol is miles away and from what I here, is more like the Bulldog in Brighton (those that live in Brighton will understand what I mean) so how do you make new friends with very little cash – not that I’m saying that all my other friends are a financial drain (well apart from the odd on or two). Well I am going to have to think about that one? I am going to leave it there for the moment – I need to go away and think about what I want from this year, and how I can achieve it.

So goodnight from me and it’s goodnight from ‘im too.

SF xxx

Best thing ever!!

30 01 2008

I have to say that I am rather loking forward to the weekend. I am off to see the family (whilst also dragging Monkey along with me; he hates ‘family’ type things) to celebrate the 1st birthday of my youngest neice. I will also be seein my mother, sisters, grandmother, aunt and verious other family types. So this shin-dig that will result in Monkey having to suffer my family will put a huge smile on my face and an even bigger one in my heart….

 Yay to Family

 sf xxx